Mummy guilt is the worst.
You think you’re doing the right thing by your kids and your whole family and somehow you still end up making yourself feel guilty. Whether you’re a stay at home mum or a working mum, everything can eat at us. Maybe you feel guilty for working and not being able to stay home with your kids, or maybe you feel guilty because you actually enjoy working and having that time away from your kids. Perhaps if you’re a stay at home mum you suffer guilt for doing too much around the house and not enough with your children or maybe you feel like you’re doing too much playing and not enough keeping up with the household. Or maybe you have major guilt for getting mad at your child when they are naughty or for disciplining them.
If you’re a mother then you can relate at some level.
I’m always reading inspirational blog and Instagram posts about how we are enough, that we are doing enough and the best for our children. I have even written some myself. And I know deep down its true, but some days, it can really get the better of you!
For example, Last week I made a whole bunch of healthy things, all from scratch….Cream cheese, sauces, muffins, goldfish. I felt so good about myself and in the long run it really is the best for my family, my kids mostly. But then I ended up feeling guilty that I spent most the days cooking and cleaning up after my cooking and then cooking something else. I took the typical time outs for meal time, dancing with the kids (I have been trying to keep the radio on during the day now instead of the tv – because I felt guilty! for efs sake!), naps, working out and other things here and there but some how at the end of the day I felt bad? I even made play dough!
Fast forward to this week and the kids are sick. It’s -20 odd outside..yes MINUS TWENTY and im trying to do the bare minimum around the house like laundry but the days still get away from me and I still feel like I didn’t do enough with them? How is this possible?
And then there’s the guilt for wanting a break from your children. I feel guilt for getting annoyed that the 30 minutes of exercise I do each day, a small amount of time I set for myself almost always gets interrupted or when Noah wakes up several times during the night because he wants to sleep in our bed and not his own. He just wants to be close to us-guilt. Or then I feel guilty that Siena is all the way in her own room and the 3 of us are in another. Like, when does it end?
I think it is just the fact about being a mum. Or a dad, I’m sure they can feel the same way too….All we can do is remind ourselves that we ARE doing our best. Every day will be different and we need to treat each day as a brand new fresh slate. So if you go to bed thinking you failed, that you got mad at your child for the smallest thing that may not necessarily have annoyed you on any other day just go easy on yourself, don’t compare your ‘mumming’ to others, parenting is so hard and some kids are more challenging than others. Tomorrow is a new day! I am right there with ya!